Self-esteem sucks!
Working on low self-esteem sucks! I'm sorry, but there is no other expression that defines the amount of work that is to transform and increase self-esteem.
When you live with it for years, it becomes a vicious cycle.
If you feel insecure, not believing things will work, you will already put little energy into this activity. You will not give your 100% if you do not commit to your responsibilities. Clearly the result will not be positive, causing feelings of guilt for not having dedicating enough, hopelessness comes to the fore making it ineffective, with no incentive to try again, then falling into the same cycle, through depression.
And it is in this physical, mental and emotional state that we sabotage our lives and ourselves. This is not a criticism, but a way that your psyche finds to protect you from failures. Therefore, not to get frustrated with failure you don't even try.
And so life goes on without being lived, only in protection mode, without taking risks, without changes or victories. This happens to thousands of people, people who live happilly in their comfort zone, but who have that question for the rest of their lives: “but what if I had done it, tried it ... would it have worked?”
How to reverse this ?!
-Establish goals in order to change. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, set a realistic goal. Don’t take a step bigger than your leg.
-Never compare yourself with others. The beauty of the other does not take away your own. This quote applies to everything. Love, work and achievements.
-Change the word “comparing’ to “inspiring “If you admire someone, get inspired by that person's journey. That would be healthier than comparing.
-"One day at time”. Learn to walk and to recognize more of yourself before running.
-Watch your thoughts. Don't let negative thoughts stick to you. Let them come, thank them and send them away. Our mind can be our biggest enemy! And you don't want that.
-My friends! gratitude is everything! Did we go through bad situations? Yes, and that's where we learn the most. Be grateful for your learnings.
-Value yourself always! Go in front of the mirror and say: I am ... capable / beautiful / intelligent / deserving /
-I do / I deserve / I can
-Be more compassionate towards you. Treat yourself as you treat those you love most.
-Don't expect others to give you the motivation to act. That is, find the strength in you to trust your guts feelings and take your life where you want it. Is easier to achieve your goals when your mind is already inclined to believe in your success.
- How about meditating? Meditating does not mean being away with the fairies. It is to close your eyes, concentrate on breathing and scan your body. Feeling the emotions and staying with them ... it helps to dissipating them. Before you finish your meditation, visualize the person you want to be when you leave that seat. You can say “just for today, I want to be…”
You are a unique creation in the Universe. Live it up!
With love, Lucia
@luciagardinertherapy